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The time at the hospital was great. My husband was a huge help. He followed our birth plan and was overly protective of our son. He was loving to me and very helpful with picking up my mom and sister at the airport and chauffeuring them around town. We left the hospital on Saturday.

Monday morning my mom left and my sister stayed for the rest of the week and was the best support person I could have ever asked for. She took care of the mundane things that you forget about, like taking video, tons of pictures, and making us an awesome DVD. She cleaned the kitchen, made us meals, added an extra pair of hands, and was just there like a silent me doing everything I needed done and never having to be told or asked.

My husband and I began going through an adjustment period. We had a new little person to take care of. I was devoting every second to him and forgetting to take care of myself. It is definitely hard to adjust on the first baby and juggle everything you need to be doing to dividing yourself into two and trying to manage another person. Just getting up and brushing my teeth, eating, and showering were chores. I wanted to tend to him before I did anything for myself. It took a good week to get the hang of things. My focus was all on the baby. It was totally tunnel vision. He was all that mattered. Meanwhile, my husband was adjusting as well. He and I were not on the same page that week. I was so focused on the baby that I didn’t think about his adjustment. He noticed that I was completely centered on our son and tried to help, but became just as worn out as I was and ended up dealing with his own emotions by himself, as I was too oblivious. By the end of that first week, we were again in a fight. Not like the fights over money and work, but we were so worn out, tired, emotionally off, drained, and overwhelmed with the new adjustment that the fight was just all over the place and we couldn’t really narrow down exactly what the fight was about.

We continued on our path of being parents, adjusting to the new baby and to how to handle each other over the next few weeks. We had our ups and downs and going back to work, just one week after giving birth, was a challenge as well. Having a newborn in a moses bed next to your feet while you are trying to run payroll was not what I had envisioned, but there I was doing it. Our lives had been blessed and changed drastically for the good forever. Yet, we were still having adjustment issues. Not that we could identify that at the time, we just knew we were fighting more than normal. It wasn’t until later that I could really see the whole picture. Viewing it after the fact led me on a mission to find out why we were so off and not fully working as a team as we had done for 6 years prior to the pregnancy. What had thrown? It wasn’t the baby. It was us dealing with each other. It took a good 3 months to begin to get back on the same page and probably another 4 months or so to fully get back to where we had begun prior to the pregnancy. So, why did this happen? What else was at play here?

We all know women are hormonal and have major issues going on with their bodies before and especially after a birth. As a woman it can be very hard to know what you are doing differently that is affecting those around you. All you know is that you are normal and everyone else is crazy. Sometimes you’ll get the hint that you do feel off or that you are more irritable, but to know that doesn’t mean we are overly sensitive to others while we are like that. On the other hand, men are emotional and hormonal beings as well. Men have cycles and can be off, moody, irritable, or just plain gross at times that are not normal to their typical behavior. Men deny that this happens to them, but wives notice these things. Society has just allowed men to use PMS or being moody as an excuse and it is acceptable for guys to discuss their wives in this manner to others. Women don’t have that option. It isn’t as socially discussed even though men do get a type of PMS at times. So, when you think about it, after a birth it would only seem natural for both the husband and wife to go through changes hormonally, right? How about during a pregnancy? Is it possible for males to have a hormonal change like the females? Could they have anything to do with how we react to one another during pregnancy? Can our pheromones play any part in how we react to each other?

I decided to research the hormonal side of things as well as the pheromones side and see just how our bodies can change, and how it affects our relationships. I was shocked to see what I found.

To be concluded tomorrow…

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